Nicolas Loewer

About Nico

“Life is play, & our true freedom blooms
when we don’t treat living as a problem to solve.”
Alan Watts

Welcome to the way of the heart

Discover pathways and practices that lead you toward inner clarity, self-trust, and a fulfilled life.
For me, Tantra is a return:
from stress and overthinking – back to presence, energy, and connection.

Beautiful that you’re here.

I’m Nico – and I love creating spaces where you can arrive back with yourself: in your body, in your heart, in your truth.

Tantra first entered my life 10 years ago, and since then it has enriched it with love, connection, and aliveness. Today, I have the deep honor of sharing what I’ve learned with you.

I now combine systemic coaching and psychology with somatic practices and the spiritual path of Tantra to guide people toward more clarity, sensuality, and aliveness: in the body and in life.

Along the way, three wake-up calls helped me feel myself more deeply again, regulate stress, and live connection with honesty.

If you’re curious, you can find the full version here.

Not sure if this is “your thing”? Perfect.
Just notice how it feels for you.

What I stand for

I believe in spaces that…

feel safe enough to be honest
are clear enough to not overwhelm you
are warm enough to let you soften
are practical enough to take the experience into everyday life
are challenging enough to step beyond your comfort zone
are loving enough to make sharing your boundaries feel easy

Spaces where you feel free.
My style: presence over intensity. slowness over overwhelm. integration over “more.”

How I work

I weave the wisdom of classical Tantra (Kashmir Shivaism) with modern embodiment and elements of science
– so presence doesn’t stay an idea, but becomes a lived, bodily experience.

Breath & body awareness
(nervous system regulation, clarity, arriving)

Movement & voice
(shaking, dancing, toning – out of the head)

Slowness & sensuality
(learning to feel again, without pressure)

Tantra practice as path of presence
(heart, energy, consciousness – grounded and suitable for daily life)

Why I do this work

The Heart of my Work

I know the feeling of functioning – while not fully being there inside.
A quiet distance from the body, from emotions, from closeness.

Movement became my early gateway back: sports, later dance – a way to feel without needing to perfectly explain everything.
And at some point, a question kept returning and changed everything:

What am I actually living for?
Am I at the right spot in life?
And is this suppose to be everything?

Ten years ago, Tantra allowed me to feel something like sensuality again for the first time. Wind on my skin. The warmth of the sun. True presence.
Eye contact that doesn’t turn away. And I understood:
Connection is not a luxury – connection is healing & nurishment for the soul.

Back in Germany, “security” eventually began to feel tight.
I was reliable, hardworking, reasonable & yet frozen inside.
Until my body stopped me (herniated disc).
Not gently. But honestly.

Yoga, meditation, and Tantra didn’t “magically” heal me (My friends did tho). They gave me something more valuable:
a way back: into breath, body, forgiveness, and integrity.
And a new, dignified relationship with closeness, boundaries, and sexuality: not through performance, but through awareness, slowness, and vulnerability.

Today, I hold spaces because I know this:

When you truly inhabit yourself again, everything changes. Not suddenly but noticeably.

If this calls you, I invite you to

My Core Values

Freedom & Love

Consent & Boundaries

Embodiment & Presence

Pleasure, Play & Aliveness

Training & Practice

Trainings

+500h Tantra deepening
– Innercamp (2021, online)
200h Tantra Teacher Training
– Aum Tantra Yoga (2022, Italy)
200h Tantra Teacher Training Assistance
– Aum Tantra Yoga (2023, Mexico)
Massage & Bodywork (wellness, lymphatic drainage, Breuss) – 2023, Berlin
Systemic Coaching & Mediation
(intensive, 5 months) – 2024, Berlin
Hridaya Yoga & Meditation
(10 months Karma Yoga) – 2025, France
Men’s Work & Archetypes
(incl. assisting/facilitation) – 2025–present (Ian Wilkes)

Practice

Since 2021, I have been holding and assisting spaces in workshops, retreats, and festivals
(including Cat & Cow, RambaZamba,… ).

A few words from people who’ve walked the path already

Testemonials

I had a wonderful coaching session with Nico that gave me much more clarity about my different inner parts, allowing me to align myself more clearly with my goals. He also shared valuable methods that helped me step more deeply into embodiment. I can wholeheartedly recommend a session with Nico!

A wooooonderful workshop! Nico (and Sonja) were amazing! Maybe one of the touch based space I felt the safest in. Beautiful embodied practices, space for integration and reflection. Everything is welcome. Full package to enjoy yourself and your growth in safety. Not hard core spiritual in the proposed activity, but deeply spiritual in the embodiment of who teaches. Thank you so much!

I've been to one of Nico's group sensual journeys and that was one of a kind experience. The event was well-prepared and thought through. I enjoyed the getting together phase with various exercises and Nico's guidance throughout the journey. I highly recommend Nico's events and would love to join again in future!

Through his warm, open, and playfully heartfelt presence, Nico creates beautiful spaces for authentic expression, closeness, and connection. I feel deeply at ease and inspired through my encounters with him and truly enjoy exploring myself and my connections with others within his offerings. Thank you for your being, and all the love to you, Nico!

I had the pleasure of experiencing a coaching session with Nicolas and found it to be very enriching. Nicolas applied methods from systemic coaching in a professional and empathetic way. Through his attentive listening and the thoughtful questions he asked, I felt truly seen and heard—and I was able to find a solution to my own challenge by answering his questions myself. A fantastic experience that I would love to repeat. Many thanks. 🙂

Biography

Here it becomes more personal.
Because I believe trust doesn’t arise from perfect words – but from truth.

Below, I share my path: the moments where I felt lost, and the ones where I found my way back.

Not so you admire my story but so you might feel a little less alone in your own.

My Path

Early Years of Life

Early Years of Life

For a long time, I was someone who went along with things. Not because I lacked character, more because adapting felt safer. Early on, I learned that it was better to seem “okay” than to feel too much.

As a child, I experienced sexual abuse. I’m not writing this to create shock. I’m writing it because it’s part of my truth & because it shaped something in me that many people recognize, even if their story looks different:

that feeling of “I’m somehow not fully safe in my body.”

Or: “I’m here – but not completely.”

For a long time, shame was like background noise. Not always loud. More like a filter over everything: closeness, touch, pleasure, trust. And for years I believed I had to somehow “get rid of it.” Or that I just needed to be more “normal.”

Sport saved me. Movement was the place where I could feel myself most clearly, without having to explain why I sometimes felt numb inside. Later, dance entered my life. Dance felt like a secret door: I could express emotions without needing words. And I think my body knew very early on: this is a path.

What was missing for a long time was agency – a relationship with my inner voice. I was often kind, often adapted, often “easy.” And inside, there were parts that didn’t know how to show themselves without danger.

If you recognize yourself in this:
You are not “too sensitive.”
You are not “broken.”
You learned how to survive & you are allowed to learn how to live again.

New Zealand as a Lifeline

New Zealand as the First Breakthrough

New Zealand was the first place where I met myself again.
Not as a role. Not as a version. Simply as a human being.

There was space. Nature. Silence. And suddenly something returned that I had missed for a long time: sensuality. Not as “sexiness,” but as felt aliveness. Wind on the skin. Eye contact that doesn’t turn away. Emotions resurfacing without me needing to control them.

And suddenly, the question appeared – one I had avoided for far too long:

What am I actually living for?

Not just what am I doing but what is my why?

During that time, I felt something like purpose again for the first time. Not as a big concept, but as a quiet inner yes. As if something inside me was saying: There you are. Finally.

Eye gazing became a key. Truly looking into someone’s eyes and not leaving – that softened something in me. Not because it was always comfortable, but because it was true.

That’s where I understood:
Connection is not a luxury. Connection is nourishment.

At times, I felt like a flower slowly opening. Not because everything suddenly became easy – but because light was present again.

Safety as a Cage

Safety as a Cage

Back in Germany, something happened that many people know well: I slipped back into “safety.” A job, a plan, a structure that looked reasonable from the outside & felt increasingly tight on the inside.
I wasn’t lazy. I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was… frozen. For years.

A quiet kind of freeze that’s easy to hide: you keep going, you function, you’re reliable but inside, you’ve long since checked out.

For a long time, I held onto an illusion:
“Once I have enough security, then I’ll start living.”

And I began to see how deceptive that sentence is because life doesn’t start later.
I also lost myself in the external world: from event to event, from distraction to distraction. Faster, faster, faster – as if speed could keep me from feeling how disconnected I truly was.

And there was that inner critic. Loud. Harsher than anyone I knew. The part of me that was never satisfied, never enough, never “right.” For a long time, I thought this was motivation. In truth, it was fear in disguise.

From herniated Disc to Insight

Herniated Disc

Three years ago, a herniated disc stopped me, completely.
Not politely. Not gently. But in a way that left no room for avoidance.
I could barely move. And with that, something collapsed that I had built with great effort: control.
In that forced stillness, a clarity emerged that was both hard and liberating:
I cling to safety but I’m not safe within myself.
I’m waiting for a “then” but my life is happening now.
I remember lying on the floor and thinking:
I need to quit my job.

Not impulsively. But from a deep inner honesty I had avoided for a long time.
Yoga and Tantra didn’t “magically” heal me. But they gave me something far more valuable:
they brought me back: into breath, into sensation, into patience.
Into the capacity to stay with what is, without immediately leaving myself.

And Tantra opened something very personal for me: a new way of relating to love and sexuality. Not through performance. Not through shame. Not through “I should be this way.” But through presence. Dignity. Truth. And slowly.. forgiveness. Including toward myself.

I realized:
When I truly inhabit myself again, everything changes.

Why I hold Spaces

Why I Hold Spaces

Because I Love the depth and the connection that such spaces allowed me to go into. So much Joy and Love.
So much Peace and Strengh.
I truly believe that if everyone would practise just a bit, become alittle more aware and reflect back the world would be such a different place.

Also because I know what it’s like to lose yourself.
Because I know what it’s like to have “everything under control” and still feel empty inside.
Because I know what it’s like to long for closeness & be afraid of it at the same time.

I don’t hold spaces to “fix” people.
I hold spaces so people can come back home to themselves.

So the body can become a home again.
So the nervous system can learn: It is safe to be here.
And I hold spaces where not only the “beautiful” has room.

Shame. Grief. Anger too.
Not as drama but as humanity.
Because I believe life softens only when we no longer have to push parts of ourselves away.

When I don’t hold Spaces

When I’m Not Holding Spaces

Then I’m usually in motion in the best sense.
I love climbing, exercising, being outdoors, and breathing myself “empty” again. I read a lot (everything from body & psyche to spirituality), continue learning, travel, discover new places & spend time with people around whom I don’t have to perform.

For me, life is a continuous process of learning and re-experiencing. I love depth & I also need play: good food, spontaneous adventures, honest conversations, music, nature, and friendships that truly nourish.

And honestly: my current growth edge is visibility. Showing myself with what I truly carry in my heart, not as a perfect version, but as a human being. Practice helps me here every day: breathing again, feeling again, being here again.

So if you sometimes think:
“I want to show myself but something is holding me back”
… same. And that’s exactly why I know how precious spaces are where courage can grow slowly.

Differentiation

Differentiation

What I use Tantra for & what I distance myself from

For me, Tantra is a way of life: a return to a love that connects: with yourself, with others, with life.

It can reduce stress, awaken energy, and at the same time bring deep clarity: around truth, closeness, pleasure, and boundaries.

I consciously distance myself from formats that sell Tantra primarily as a quick sexual experience or focus only on intensity. Not from judgment, but from experience: without integration, even the most beautiful experiences quickly become empty.

That’s why my spaces are designed so you don’t just experience more, but inhabit yourself more: grounded, human, conscious & always with an eye on what truly comes with you into your everyday life.

My Invitation to you

If you’ve read this far, there’s probably something in you that remembers.
Maybe quietly. Maybe already clearly.

You don’t have to be “ready.”
You don’t have to be “spiritual.”

You’re simply allowed to be curious, about a life that feels like you again.

If you enjoy groups and momentum:
→ explore the workshops.

If you prefer a personal path, at your own pace:
→ I’m here in 1:1, from the heart.

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